Resigned to the fact
I’m going to ask you a question. It’s a question that may strike a nerve. At what point in your life did you choose to settle for less than amazing?
I had an interesting conversation recently in which the person with whom I was speaking to remarked, “I’ve resigned myself to the fact that I’ll never be wealthy”. This wasn’t an elderly person; this was someone in their mid-twenties! Less than a third of their life has passed and they have already resigned to a belief that they have manifested and now chosen to label as “FACT”.
As pre-schoolers we believe we are superheros that can fly, shoot laser beams out of our eyes and save the world. At 7 we aspire to be doctors and astronauts that can change the world. At 13 we look up to footballers and cricketers in the hope we might one day also represent our country. At 17 we’re asked to choose a suitable and realistic career path. By our mid-twenties we’ve resigned our lives to ones of employee, facebook updates, hashtags, reality TV and angry birds (is that still a thing?).
Our days are swallowed by hollow tasks and our happiness lies in a pay cheque and a few weeks holiday per year. Our dreams are left in the gossip magazines for those born with the silver spoon in their mouths. The media feed us the worst of the worst news, because it sells. You wouldn’t know it, but we are fortunate enough to live in the most abundant, free age ever known to man. There is so much good in the world and so much choice laid out for us. Yet we choose the plate of least resistance with a side of excuses.
Maybe it’s because I love the process. I long for the challenge a new day brings; my happiness residing in striving to be better than the person I was yesterday. I am yet to resign any part of life to a non-fact. Life is what I choose it to be, not what happens to me. My becoming “wealthy” or “sucessful” is not a matter of fantasy, but only a matter of time. I might even save the world while I’m at it.
How's your French?
One of, if not the biggest issue with my clients, friends, family (even myself at times) and their physical condition, is their lack of noticeable results in a reasonably short period of time.
In an age of iphones, itunes and instagram, we all want instabody. If I sat down with a prospective client and told them their goals would take 1-3 years of intense, disciplined work to achieve, that would be last time I’d see that client.
We easily forget that we didn’t get fat or unfit overnight. It was a slow but sure decline, probably since we were in high school. Yet somehow we want to erase all that damage by yesterday with a juice cleanse and some sit ups. Let me ask you this. If you wanted to speak French and practiced for 30 minutes, once a week, would you expect to be fluent in 3 weeks? 3 months? I’d be surprised if you could hold a proper conversation in 3 years!
My guess is if you practiced (with a coach) for 30 minutes a day, 5-6 days a week, after 3 weeks you’d be able to order at a restaurant, in 3 months you’d be able to hold a conversation quite comfortably and in 3 years??? You could host “Bon Matin Paris!” Yet we all want to host “Bon Matin Paris” within 3 months. I need you to know something…YOU CAN’T. We think that best intentions build muscle and a gym direct debit withdraws fat from our bodies, not just money from our bank account. Think again!
With such little time invested over such a short period, it ain’t happenin’. I know this is shocking. Even I (previously) was frustrated at that fact, after all Fitness magazines say we can look like Wolverine in just 4 weeks. So what’s going wrong?
The long and short of it is you simply aren’t giving your body enough of a reason to make a big change. After 3 months the best you could hope for on “Bon Matin Paris” is a guest gig reading the weather. But even then, you’d have to really focus, commit and converse with a language coach daily.
Half an hour of Personal Training, once a week for big results? I can’t compete, if the other 167.5 hours are filled with crappy food, alcohol, lack of movement and/or lack of sleep. Sure we’ll get some improvement, as something is better than nothing, but just prepare yourself for disappointment if you’re hoping to be “beach/bikini ready”.
So if we can’t achieve it with a once-a-week program the obvious answer for most of us is to stop the gym and quit the training, keep all the bad habits, but lose the healthy ones because the minor effort you put in wasn’t reaping huge results on the surface.
As has been said many a time, “Don’t be upset by the results you didn’t get from the work you didn’t do!” Though, a novel idea might be to commit to something better. By making healthy habits a part of your life not a short-term supplement to it.
Can’t afford a coach? 2-3 sessions a week will cost you somewhere in the range of $80 to $180 a week. Group sessions even less.
- A night out on the booze with dinner: $80-$200
- Tickets to the footy & a couple of drink or snacks: $40-$150
- Takeaway coffees x 10 per week: $40-50
- That thigh master in the garage: 3 easy payments of $49.95
- Those miracle supplements that you expected would do all the work: $30-$300
- That dress in the closet with tags still on: $50-whatever
- Repayments on that new car you didn’t really need? Haircuts & products? Breakfast here? Lunch there? Shiny Shoes?
I know what you’re saying, “But I don’t spend that much on all those things, I really don’t have the money”. “I don’t have time”.
So let me ask you, where is your money going? Are you saving for your diabetic medication that you’ll need when you are 40 or 50? The hip-replacement? The heart valve? Physio for that bad back?
What works better for your schedule and bank account? Exercising 30 minutes a day or being dead 24 hours a day?
But that’s silly, let’s make it a little more realistic. Close your eyes and think about your kids graduating from high school or uni. Think about playing with your grandchildren in the park. Now think about never getting to experience either because you’re either physically unable or 6 feet under. Can you find the money now?
I do have a sneaky little secret that will get you massive results beyond anything you’ve ever imagined. It will give you the best possible chance, despite what I just said. You may even get to host “Bon Matin Paris” within 3 months!
Want to know what it is?
Move to France…